How important are relationships to my shadow?
Warrior Ten tells me that my shadow likes relationships to feel needed. My shadow wouldn’t know what to do with itself without someone relying on him. However, this is a double edged sword as my shadow also feels used by people who “walk all over it.” My shadow also takes on other people’s burdens as a way of feeling important and needed. In some ways, my shadow would feel as if it did not have a right to exist if it wasn’t doing for others. This was the mentality that my mother drilled into my head as a child and it is a hard mindset to break.
The Hermit shows the flip side of my shadows relationship to other people. Once I have reached my fill of other people, I like to retreat and to be by myself with no human interruptions. I need the room to contemplate and to breathe. Being around people can be suffocating for me and it can be incredibly overwhelming.
I had to smile as I saw the warrior king as the warrior king is prancing alone in a field of battle. He likes his glory and he likes to be the center of attention. My shadow loves to be the center of attention. I’ve gotten better about it, but in the past I truly had to feel as if everyone was paying attention to me or I would cease to exist. I liked to be the center of attention for things I did well, but I was also content being the center of attention as a victim.
Cairn by Cairn 