First Impressions: Icy, emotional control, heartless
Book: Hidden emotions, worldly and suave, unwillingness to be vulnerable
Guidance: Open your heart
Journaling
Another card that is right on the money as I am still struggling to be open and vulnerable. It is much easier to say F* you and walk away than to trust people enough to open up and be vulnerable and let them in. In my head, I know that loving with an open heart means opening up and being willing to be vulnerable, but in practice I still struggle with it. I do a good job with Scott and with Kyle, but it takes me a long time to actually get to know people and to truly let them in. I think my experience with X has also hurt me more than I know as I trusted him and shared his secrets and he’s been so distant lately. However, in my heart I know that is more a matter of unfulfilled expectations than a true breach of trust. In realty, he has done nothing to hurt me, but be busy with his own life.
The other issue is that I am struggling to control my raging Scorpio personality. My personality is scorched earth and take no prisoners and when I feel like I am slighted, I either want to destroy the other person, freeze them out, or just ghost them. Those are the extremes within my soul and it is really hard for me to come to a more temperate approach. I think that drives some of my personal problems at work as well as I am so passionate about what I do and I want to do it well and when I feel like my efforts are not appreciated, my default mechanism is to say F* you and walk away. I can’t just bring part of myself to work, I’m either all in or all out.
I think that’s why in my heart of hearts I’d rather own my online business where I can call the shots and I can say F* you if I don’t get my way. I’m not sure if there is a solution to this, but I will continue to meditate on it, work on it, and do my best.
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